Condolences Page

This page last updated on: Friday, January 16, 2004 11:21:33 PM

If you sent one of us a note but you don't see it here, then I have either not had a chance to post it yet or I have deemed it worthy of the Blessing Counting page. If you don't want your words to appear here, just let me know and I will remove them. Thank you all for your wonderful support in this, our darkest hour.

"I do not wish to intrude upon your sorrow, but should you log on today, I just wanted to express our sympathies on the sudden passing of Uncle Fred. I myself had returned from a party after 11:00pm and received the news with disbelief, shock, sadness and regret. May God grant you Grace to help you cope, and know that our prayers and thoughts are with you all.

Love

Mark"

"Dear Shirley,

We offer our deepest sympathy to you and the family on hearing of the passing away of our dear Freddy. To us Freddy was not just a friend, but a member of our family. It was such a joy to have him in Karachi with us during his last visit. He was one of the finest persons we have had the privilege to know, and we will always remember with affection his warmth, his sense of humour and his friendship. We know that he will always be remembered as a loving husband and father, a loving brother and a loyal friend. We pray that God grant him peace, and grant you and the family the strength to bear this loss. Our prayers are with you all.

Fareeda, Aman & family."

"Dear Shirley and family :

My loving thoughts and supporting prayers are with all of you. Dear Freddy was 'family' to us, as are all of you. I got the sad news from Charles soon after he received it from Jenny (?), but it has been sinking in very slowly. The fact that one cannot really feel "grieved", is because Freddy is too much a part of our lives ---and its not going to go away. As a friend from school days , I have been fortunate to have had him as a friend for 50 years or more. Many a great time we have had together and there is a great bank of happy memories.

The photograph which comes with David's announcement is the way I remember dear Freddy and it brought tears to my eyes.

There is no Death ! What seems so is transition;

This life of mortal breath

Is but a suburb of the life Elysian,

Whose portal we call Death.

__ Henry Wordsworth Longfellow

Never the spirit was born; the spirit shall cease to be never;

Never was time it was not; End and Beginning are dreams !

Birthless and deathless and changeless remaineth the spirit forever;

Death hath not touched it at all, dead though the house of it seems !

__ Sir Edvin Arnold in " The Song Celestial "

( English translation of the Bhagavad Gita )

Love to all of you

Dara Mirza"

"To Shirley and Family

The man with "lightning in his veins" has passed. His great enthusiasm and wonderful sense of humour will be sorely missed.

Very best wishes for peace and comfort at this difficult time for you all

Alan and Marie Thornton

Christophers."

"Dear Dave:

Please accept our deepest condolences on the passing away of your father. And thanks for taking the trouble to find my email address and informing me.

My wife, Nina and I, along with our Daughter Sonya and son-in-law Ryan called on your mother, grandma and rest of the family this afternoon to convey our condolences. We met everyone except you. Sorry to have not met you in person.

I can well imagine your grief at the loss of your father (and such a lovable person that he was). It is indeed a privilege that I knew him and came to love and respect his character and charisma. Only two days earlier to his passing away I had occasion to meet Donna when she visited our home, and express admiration for your dad. We shall sorely miss him.

In spite of your grief you have started putting together at the Zuzarte Strand, a fitting tribute to his memory. "A work in progress", as you have described it. I am sure your dad will be looking at you from above and applauding your efforts. You have done him proud.

I shall look forward to meeting you on Friday/Saturday.

Krish

Krishna Menon"

"Dearest Shirley & Family

May God grant you the strength and courage to bear your tragic loss. You are in our thoughts and prayers.

Vincy, to me, was more than a younger brother. He was, in many ways my mentor and buddy, on whom I could always depend.

He has left us a legacy of unity and goodwill which will sustain us till the end of our days.

May his soul rest in peace.

Charles & Family"

"My Dear Shirley,

Ayesha and I were very saddened by David's message giving us the unexpected news. We understand too well it's in God's hands, but one can't help wishing otherwise. Fred has been a great friend to us, and I am sure a great husband, father and grandfather in your family. Instead of spouting nice sounding sayings and sentiments, he lived them all the time, and it showed clearly. I feel strongly that he brought much happiness, contentment and fulfillment in your life, and for those long and happy years we must all be grateful to God.

I got to know Fred about 50 years back, and at the time he looked a lot like the picture David has on his site, with the dog. Always cheerful and fun loving, he has been an ideal friend for a long time, and I only hope I didn't give him anything negative either. We understood each other well. After dinner I went out for a walk. There has been snow here yesterday and today, a couple of inches on the ground, and it immediately made me think of our Lawson Road days, when Fred would come out during our slow jogging evenings and join us for a couple of times around the block. We always enjoyed his company.

Fred never had an opportunity to introduce me to his mother or siblings but more than made up by bringing the Saldanha extended family into my circle of treasured friends and acquaintances. I hope you and all your relatives will always think of Ayesha and me whenever we can do something useful, just as comfortably as you would think of one another. We would be honored.

I read David's second round of emails only a couple of hours ago. I have considered driving up to be there on Saturday. It's not very feasible, as on Sunday morning I have to receive Lila at Dayton and bring her 60 miles to our house for the holidays. But soon after 12/31 Ayesha and I are thinking of making a visit to our favorite city, and favorite people. Hope it can work out.

Please give our love and sympathy to each of your children, as we don't have email or street address in some cases, and so won't be writing to each separately. But we are thinking about each of them with fond and loving feelings.

Much love and many tears,

Ayesha and Farhad"

"We are all very sorry to hear of Fred's passing from David and Barbara.Please accept our heartfelt sympathy to you Shirley and all the family at this difficult time. We have good memories of Fred during our stays in Montreal & Toronto and can only guess how much he will be missed. Our sympathy and love goes out to all of you. Molly & Rodney."

"dear aunty,

I have just heard the terrible news. You cannot imagine how sorry I am and I cannot imagine how you and the family must be feeling in these awful time.

I know words can hardly make you feel any better but please know that we have you all in our thoughts and send you all the love we can garnish and hope with all our heart that you can get through these days with the affection of the family.

loads of kisses

Ana and Matthias"

"dear shirley and family.....please accept my deepest sympathy in your hour of trial,,,,,you are all in our prayers....will write .......hilary zuzarte"

Card from Merl Cyprian

"Hi Donna,

I know we have not seen each other in years, but that in no way diminishes the sorrow that I feel for your loss. I remember your dad to be a wonderful man - he could not have raised such a great group of children if it were otherwise. I know that my words cannot provide any relief for the pain you must be experiencing, but hopefully you will find some peace in the knowledge that your father is remembered in my prayers. Please share my sympathies with Jeff and the rest of the family.

Stefan Chambers"

"Dear Dave,

Thank you, Dave, for sending me the source material which I'm sure will be really helpful in preparing the homily for Saturday. I've asked Frida (parish secretary) to print it all for me since I'm having a problem downloading both at at home and at work.

You are all in my thoughts and prayers especially with the suddenness of all that's happened. As your Mom probably told you, I didn't initially realize that it was your father who had died since we weren't clear on the last name. In phoning Father Pete to clarify, I was shocked to learn that it was your Dad. A close friend of mine has also tragically lost her Dad and her sister a few days ago and I am going to assist at their funeral on Thursday. Fr. David will likely be in touch ahead of me, but I will, of course, see you on Friday and perhaps connect with your Mom and you guys just before the Vigil on Friday or sooner if I can.

In my prayers and kind regards,
Tom."

(Tom McKeogh is the deacon at Mom and Dad's church)

"Dear Shirley, Jeff and family:, The Groenigs (Gerd , Theresa (DeeDee), Lucas

and Natalie) wish to give our sincere condolences for the loss of Fred. We still remember him playing on the couch with Avery on Averys birthday. He was having a great time with his grandson. We will try our best to be at the funeral service on Saturday. the Groenig family."

"David,

Please accept my condolences on the sudden, unexpected loss of your father. When possible, please extend my sympathies to the rest of your family and specifically your mom. I've met Fred only a few times in my life but enjoyed every time I met him and shared a laugh with him. He has left a great legacy in you and your siblings.

Sincerely,

Doug Pinto"

"Dear Shirley,

Just a quick note to say that my thoughts are with you and your family at this difficult time. I met Fred at some of the Mercer social events and I always remember how warm-hearted he was, and how proud you were to have him and the rest of your family come to our get-togethers.

I'm sure that all of your kids and their extended families will be a source of great strength for you.

Deepest regards,

Don Hill"

"To the Zuzarte Family:
Just to say how sorry that we were to hear about the passing of Fred---he will be remembered as a warm and loving person: We saw him at Avery's first birthday and one cute thing that came out of the party, (among many others) was that when my grandaughter Lauren Wallace went by Fred, he reached out his hand and helped her walk by him---and she turned to him and said "I know you"--and just kept going---and when my grandson Jacob was upstairs, Fred took the time to keep his eye on him and help him to come down the stairs---we will miss Fred and will keep him alive in our hearts and our memories---we have a couple of real nice pictures taken at Avery's birthday, which I will make sure Paddy and Jeff get and if more are wanted that will be taken care of---Again our deepest and heartfilled thoughts are with each and everyone

Love from Heather Stuart and Earl Murphy, aka as Auntie & Uncle Earl"

"Dear Shirley and family:

A brief note to express my sympathy at the tragic and sudden loss of your beloved husband and father. My thoughts and prayers are for you during this painful ordeal.

Shirley, I am so happy Andrew and I met you this summer. I met {Fred} several years ago and remember him to be a very jovial guy.

I will get in touch with you at a later date. In the meantime, I wish I could put my arms around you and give you comfort.

Lots of love,

Lorette"

"Hello Dave.

My sincere regrets for the passing of your Father. Condolences to the family. Fred was a great man and an individual who put lots of ENTHUSIASM in all he did. He was special and will always be remembered by all his fellow Christophers.

Hope to see you Friday or Saturday.

Graham Cantwell"

"Dear Shirl,

How appropriate that ths final message from Fred should be still on my computer. It sums up his life to a great extent: loving and giving.

Today was the big Chrsitmas festival at J & M. Many of the sisters came up to offer their condolences. Sr Grace was specially asking about Fred. She is in Sialkot these days and she said she would offer a mass on 20th. Peter and Shirley Cross especially asked for your address and are sending a card to you.

Fr Bob and Fr Joseph Pham will be taking part in the funeral mass - this was conveyed to me by Fr Joseph.

I notice the weather in Toronto is very near freezing... but that is normal for this time of year.

United with the whole family in this moment of grief,

Love,

Larry

>From: Fredzuz@aol.com
>To: Fredzuz@aol.com
>Subject: Loving and giving
>Date: Wed, 26 Nov 2003 07:17:36 EST

> >You can give without loving, but you cannot love without giving.

>Amy Carmichael (1867-1951), Missionary."

"Mrs.Zuzarte and family, I am truly sorry for your loss of such a wonderful husband and father. My words cannot express my deepest feelings of sadness for all of you. I know you are strong and will help each other through such a time. The many memories will always be in your hearts. And I know Mr.Zuzarte will keep guardian over all of you. I offer you my prayers and all of my love.

Love you all! Linda Holmes(Kotsilidis): circlehranch@i-zoom.net"

"Thanks David,
It was a beautiful ceremony on Saturday. Will keep in close contact with
your family over the holidays.

Take care,
Denise"

"It was nice meeting you all recently, wish it was under totally different circumstances. Although we are back with our daily life, the memories of your dad will always remain fresh in our minds. We pray that you all have the strength to deal with his loss.

We should keep in touch, even if it means a few messages here and there. Hi to all at home and Best Wishes for Christmas and the New Year

Edward"

"Dear David,

I was very sad to hear about your father's passing away.Freddy was a great friend of mine. We were together in school from the 5th class onwards. We had a lot of fun together. We influenced each other a lot and learnt a lot from each other.
I will miss him. God bless him.

Please give your mother my best regrads. I am sure that she and all of you will find the strenght to bear this heavy loss.

David, thank you very much for all the information you have been sending me.The way you write reminds me a lot about Freddy. I wish you all the best.

Perry Mirza"

"Dave,

I taught with your Dad in the 'Christopher' Public Speaking course. He was a dynamic, colourful, energetic man and speaker. It was a joy and pleasure to work with him.

I pray God's hand upon your family at this time, that He will give you much strength and peace.

Sincerely in Christ,

Greg Williams

Truro, Nova Scotia"

"Thank you, Dave, for Fred's memorial and for the other features on your web. Your Dad was certainly a man who lived life to the full and obviously enjoyed. Once again my deepest sympathies to your mother and all the family. I'm sorry to have missed the funeral but I see now how it happened. I too got the wrong name. Even in our high tech society the human factor will out. Enjoyed your choice of music too.
By the way the St.Joe's web needs an update.
Good wishes. Mike Doyle"

"Very nice sentiments from Matteo. For those of you whose Italian isn't strong:

Un abbraccio forte forte
I embrace strongly strongly

http://babelfish.altavista.com/babelfish/tr (the translation site I used)

Jeff

-----Original Message-----
From: Matteo Gulmanelli [mailto:matteo.gulmanelli@virgilio.it]
Sent: Tuesday, December 16, 2003 5:16 PM
To: Zuzarte, Shirley
Subject: Re: Frederick Harold Vincent Zuzarte: 1937-2003

Dear Aunt Shirley,
I'm very very sad for the tragedy you have announced!
I know that there are no words that can help you and your family on this moments and only your own family can help herself staying closly together. As we are so far from Canada, I can just write to you a few lines to show my sincerly sorry and express you my condolences. I'm sure that God will keep Oncle Fred close to himself and this is the only thing that can give to all of us a bit of serenity. I'm sure all of us we will miss a nice person as Oncle Fred was but he will stay in our memory: in mine too, even if I met him so little time. We will pray for him, for you and for your family. Take care of yourself! Un abbraccio forte forte to you and your sons and our cousins. da Matteo & family (who is in Oporto, where I'll go for Christmas hollidays)"

"Hi Shirley:

Just a note to let you know I am thinking of you. I have read the web page created by you son David and learned much about your family, all of whom are lending great support to you and each other. That is a blessing in itself besides, from all accounts, you had a wonderful and loving husband, so you have many precious memories to sustain you.

Dave, you did an outstanding job, creating the web page - truly a labor of love.

Shirley, your last words to me when we parted were " keep the Saldanha spirit fighting!" I'm sure you are doing the same.

My love to you all and especially Aunty Lilla.

Lorette"

Dave's Friends

"It truly saddens me to hear this news.

Please accept my condolences, and may God be with you, and your family in your time of need.

Sincerely,

Daniel J. Walker."

"Hi Dave,

Please accept my sincerest condolences in regards to your fathers passing away. I apologize I'm not sure what to say when the passing away of someone so dear to you has occurred, but since we are both Catholic, I know for a fact that your father is with God in Heaven now. Again, I'm very sorry to hear the news Dave, if you feel like talking or going for a drink, call me anytime.

Take care buddy,

Alex"

"Dave,

I am terribly sorry to hear of your profound loss. May he rest in peace.
My sincerest condolences are with you and your family in this trying time.

God Bless,
Ali"

"David,

I was so sorry to get your email this morning. Please call me if you need anything at all. {Editted for content}

I will be keeping an eye on the web-site for funeral details and you will be in my thoughts and prayers. Look after yourself.

Karen L. Clarke"

"Hi, Dave.

I can't tell you how sorry I am for your loss. It must have been (and be) such an incredibly tough time for you. Please accept our sympathies and pass them on to your family as well - and know that you're in our thoughts.

Take care.

Mary Jo Nabuurs"

"Hi Dave:

I'm so sorry to hear about your father's sudden passing - my deepest sympathies to you and your family. I hope that both your faith and your family are some comfort to you in these trying days.

Ellen McKay"

"Heh Dave,

My sincere condolences to you and please pass them along to your entire family. You are all in my prayers.

Take care,

Tammy"

"Hi David

This is such sad news to hear. My heart goes out to you and your family.

I'll never forget seeing the Zuzarte family almost every weekend at church, sitting right there in front of us!!

From what I remember of your dad, he was a extremely friendly man, even with your friends who were constantly getting in trouble with you, and it's good to see his son living his life with that same love for others.

From the entire Conroy clan, our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

Vince"

"My condolences Dave and prayers to you and your family..

If I don't see you back from this Christmas break, hopefully will see you soon in the new year..

Best wishes..

sincerely,

Glen Kim"

"Dave,

I'm am sorry to hear about your dad. My prayers and thoughts are with you and your family.

Take care

Andrew "

"Dave,

Please accept my deepest sympathy in the loss of your Dad Fred. Rob forwarded this Memorial site to me, which I think is wonderful, and the first of it's kind.

I will be at the viewing on Fiday with Rob, and also for the funeral Mass at St. Joseph's on Saturday.

Bye for now

Robert Bobby) Borges.

PS Rob and I have identical names."

Card from Eveline Helme

"Dear Mrs. Zuzarte and Dave,

My deepest sympathies on the passing of Mr. Zuzarte. Please rest assured of the prayers of my entire family for him and for your growing family. He was a fine gentleman; I fondly recall our conversations when I was younger. He has left a wonderful legacy in your beautiful family. I also have many warm and happy memories from my childhood of the hours spent in your happy home. Thank you, years later, for that kindness and generosity.

Dave, I was happy to see you at the funeral although I wish it were under more joyful circumstances. Keep in touch, buddy.

Mrs. Zuzarte, I'm sorry I didn't get to see you and offer my condolences personally. Hopefully, I will see you again soon.

God bless you all.

Regards

Kevin Malcolm"

"sending love your way dave...condolences at a difficult time, but there is always sunshine after rain and may you and your family be blessed luck in the coming year.

Michele Kim"

"Hi Dave,

My sincere regrets for your family's loss. Just remember that he is proudly looking

at you from above. Keep strong, best wishes for 2004, and I'll see you on the 14th.

Darren."

"Dave,
I read every page of your memorial website....you are such a gifted writer....and i'm so sorry to hear about your dad. after looking at the pictures and videos and reading what you wrote, i felt like i had known him personally and felt like i was a part of your family :o) and I really do feel your loss. this man was truly loved and was very lucky to have all ofyou as a family :o).

Jodee Kirk"

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